Would you ever accept a position even if you knew it was not a good fit for you?

On Google + today, someone asked this question.


Would you ever accept a position even if you knew it was not a good fit for you? 


My short answer to him was:   I have learned the hard way. No. If you know it's not a good fit, you'll be miserable and the position will not be successful.


When asked to expound on that statement, I told him..


 You know in your gut. I took a job out of desperation that I knew wouldn't work and it was the most miserable two years of my life.

I then left that job into what I thought was a great situation, but knew early in that it wasn't going to work, and it didn't.  


I believe this thorughly.  Taking a job out of desperation is just asking for trouble.  I took a job because I had just been laid off, and didn't want to be out of work.


Then I took this latest job because it sounded perfect.  In my gut, I think I knew it wouldn't work.  It all moved way too fast.


Trust your gut.  Don't accept a job out of desperation.  You only get more heartache down the road.

When did we learn to lose our acceptance

hatred and intolerance

So true...and so sad. I see babies and young kids and they just gravitate toward each other, they don't care about race, ethnicity, and just acceptance for everyone. 

I remember when Jamie would call every woman he met mother. I was mommy, but other women were mother. Was cute.

I hate when people turn love and acceptance into something terrible. 


There's nothing I think is cuter than the boys just belting out a song for no reason.  Walking up to a baby and saying hi and wanting to play with them, going up to everyone as a friend.


I wish we could all keep the wonder of childhood.

Auschwitz

I started watching a series from 2005 on Auschwitz.

I got through the first of the 6 episodes today. It talked about how the camps started. And how they deliberately went after children with mental disabilities, and then moved to adults with disabilities.

They're thinking was they were useless to society and would be a drain and they needed to eliminate these people from ever being able to pass these genes to their children.

Just really disturbed me. 

And what's even sadder? That people are still doing this today!! Maybe not the grand gas chambers. But is this different than the parents that want to abort their children with disabilities, people who abuse children with disabilities?

Our poor babies.

Fox's show "Touch" and parenting special needs children

I'm DVR'ing "Touch"

Just momentarily caught about 30 seconds where they want to put him in a "boarding facility" 15 miles down the road and Keefer is fighting it.

I'm so so glad I'll never have to make that decision.  I could never send my baby away, even if he couldn't talk.  

I guess I was just raised differently, or being that it took so long to get pregnant, I have a different view of things, but I could never abandon my children.  And I know that word is very "divisive" among parents of children with special needs.  

I know in their heart of hearts, most don't feel they're abandoning their children.  They're hoping to give them a better quality of life than they believe they could.

Life isn't easy. Life sucks in most cases.  But seeing my babies smile at me, tell me they love me, and on the rare occasion of getting a hug or kiss.... I wouldn't trade that for anything.

Being in the position last year of being told to choose between my job and my family, it just brought home how important my babies are to me.  I would move heaven and earth for them if I could.

I'm sure one day they'll think I'm the worst parent that ever lived, but I hope that they can at least say they never doubted that I loved them.  And as a parent, isn't that what we all strive for?